Working with Affairs

March 17, 2018 Saturday from 02:30 PM to 05:30 PM (PDT)
Lafayette Library – Arts and Science Room 3491 Mt. Diablo Blvd. CA

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About Working with Affairs

Target Audience

This seminar is designed for therapists of all levels who have had some experience working with couples, or who desire to get a sense of what working with an affair couple can entail.


How does working with a couple where infidelity has been discovered differ from working with other couples?  This seminar will give an overview of the components of treatment necessary to assist couples in healing at the deepest level. We will cover assessment, responding to the trauma of discovery,  connecting empathically to both the discoverer and the discovered, countertransference, socio-cultural issues, common defenses employed by each spouse, making meaning of the affair including conceptualizing and mourning romantic myths, sexuality, and the role of privacy, secrets and lies in marriages and marriage counseling.

Learning Objectives

Participants will be able to:
1. Review how working with an affair couple differs from ordinary marriage counseling.
2. Identify countertransference reactions and how they might affect treatment.
3. Identify and address relational, historical and socio-cultural motivations and determinants of an affair.


Susan Berger is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been in private practice in Walnut Creek and San Francisco since 1986.   For the past twelve years she has focused on infidelity, and has maintained a blog for the lay public, “About Affairs,” during this time.  She works with couples wishing to heal as well as individuals  involved in or affected by infidelity. Susan approaches work with both couples and individuals from a psychoanalytic perspective, incorporating intersubjectivity, developmental theory, self psychology, object relations, Emotionally Focused Therapy and the work of Esther Perel.  Susan has given numerous presentations on the subject to various clinical organizations in the Bay Area. She is a former instructor at New College of California where she taught Advanced Psychodynamic Techniques. She also taught at U.C. Berkeley Extension for 19 years. 

Space is limited, advanced registration is required. Have questions? Please contact Nes Pinar at (925) 405-6040 or send an email to

Refunds for cancellation with 72-hour notice.

* 3 CE credits will be provided to participants. BAPTI is approved by the California Psychological Association to provide continuing professional education for psychologists. BAPTI maintains responsibility for this program and its content.  CPA Provider # BAY 012. The California Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS) now recognizes CPA continuing education credit for license renewal for LCSWs and MFTs.

To receive a CE credit you MUST sign and include your license number on both the Sign-In and Sign-Out Sheet. Participants must attend entire training to receive CE Credits. No partial credit will be provided.
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Lafayette Library – Arts and Science Room

Lafayette Library – Arts and Science Room 3491 Mt. Diablo Blvd. Lafeyette CA USA 94549

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Bay Area Psychotherapy Training Institute

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